So this morning I had a rather unpleasant internal examination – want to hear about the state of my cervix? No, didn’t think so :giggle:

Anyway, as a result, I’m super sensitive and irritable, so I’m going to have a whine about some online-y things that have been getting me down of late.

Can anyone tell me why some people are completely comfortable with ruining the online experience for the rest of us? My question stems from a few ‘issues’ I’ve been having:

I am informed by OtherHalf that my domain name was recently appropriated by someone for use as a ‘sender’ address for spam. So if I’ve spammed your mailbox lately, sorry, it truly was not me. I don’t use this domain for anything mail related. OtherHalf has put measures in place which will hopefully stop this happening again – what makes me most angry is that not everyone can necessarily protect themselves like this – I’m just lucky to have someone on hand who happens to administrate mail servers for a living.

Secondly, I was targeted by a couple of splogs recently. Splogs are apparently ‘spam blogs’ – fake blogs (usually full of nonsensical or plagiarised content) set up purely for the purpose of either A) promoting other sites belonging to the blog-author via lots of linkage, or B) making money from AdSense impressions by luring visitors to the splog, or C) both. It seemed to be a couple of the B-type splogs which got me – incoming links to my blog are listed on the WordPress interface, and I usually check them out to see who’s linking to me (Um… I do believe that’s called vanity!) In this case, by visiting the blogs in question, I earned the authors a little bit of income from their Google AdSense ads. Sucks :grr:

Edit: I just want to clear up a little misunderstanding – Splogs are not exactly the same thing as comment spam. I have quite good comment spam moderation on here, and if I got more, there are several WordPress plugins that work really well at eradicating comment spam. Splogs are not possible to control in this way – they work by linking to me, I see the incoming link via Technorati or the WordPress interface, and visit the blog to find out who it is that’s linking me. Slightly different, and I can’t control who links to me… all I can do is stop visiting those sites to check. It’s more like referer log spamming, if you know what that is. If you find what you believe is a splog on Blogspot, you can ‘flag’ that blog as having ‘offensive content’, but I don’t know how effective this is at having them removed.

OK, now the third thing is a little closer to home. Stitching Exchanges. More specifically – mine. In trying to sort out the state of affairs – who has posted and received, and who has not – it has become apparent that one of the group has… well… disappeared. Absconded. Leaving behind her a trail of unfulfilled exchanges (so I hear now). Mine included. I feel awful for the person who’s missing out on her exchange (only she won’t miss out in the end, because of course I’ll arrange a replacement for her), and I feel really let down personally (partly because I’m the moderator, and partly because I was the person to send the fiber/embellishment supplies to her to use in this exchange). Why would you do that? Personal gain? There’s very little of that in this case. Malicious intent? I guess some could take perverse pleasure from upsetting people like this… but I just don’t get it. At any rate, it has soured my first experience of moderating an exchange, and I’m not sure I’m going to be jumping in to do another.

Aaargh! There was more, actually, but I think I’ve got the bulk of my grumpiness out of the way, so I’ll just stop here… Finn and I are going to go and cook Osso Bucco to make me feel better 🙂

PS. In case you did want to know the state of
Things-Cervical, all is well, and the finger-crossing can commence now, please :giggle: ! This month, one way or the other, I’m going to have a baby 😮 !

8 responses to “Whiiiine

  1. Poor you. I get the spam comments too and I think I missed out on my Spring Exchange because of the absconding member. It sucks. I feel for you as moderator – I know I always feel terrible if someone’s exchange doesn’t arrive and I’m moderating.

  2. The exchange thing is rotten. I really can’t understand why people do that. If you need some to help with a fresh package, just let me know.

  3. Oh Melanie, you poor thing. I think I have only ever had the spam comment once and I deleted it as quick as it got through..horrible thing.

    I am so sorry about your exchange as I know how much work you put into this exchange to get it to as smoothly as possible. It amazes me how anyone could literally up sticks and disappear after getting their bits and not committing to their side of the bargain. I do hope you get it sorted out soon and you can stop fretting and the little babe can arrive do a destressed mom 🙂


  4. Mel, that totally sucks to hear that someone would do that in your exchange!! I can’t believe some people. What a childish and selfish thing to do.

    Glad to hear your appointment went well and I look forward to hearing about the arrival of Small!

  5. I’ve not ever tried a round robbin or exchange of any sort.. I’m a bit hesitant because I’d be afraid there’d be someone not keeping up on their end. Sorry to hear that happened to you! Urgh!

    Splogs are horrid. I’ve been suckered with the referring links thing too. It really really irritates me. I actually enjoy encountering new blogs to read, so when it’s nothing but a splog, *sigh*.

    I would be even more irritable about it if I were due to have a baby within the month! *g* I recall those weeks quite vividly, and don’t envy you at all. Best wishes with your delivery!

  6. I was in a roundrobin where a participant vanished – with someone’s project. Not quite the same thing, I know, but easily as frustrating, especially for the person who’s piece vanished. Fortunately, it was four separate panels where we each chose our own teddy bear, so the rest of us were able to recreate what had been done. After that situation, I ended up leaving the group entirely becuase so much of the conversation turned to “what happened to XXmember” and I simply couldn’t justify wasting my time reading all of that day after day when there was virtually no stitching discussion left.

    I have never understood people who make commitments to RRs and Exchanges and then just disappear.

  7. Ahhh, I think you may just have hit the sore spot of so many exchange stitchers. In the past, I’ve been one of the ones who has helped out by stitching an extra piece to send to the person who was jilted. Unfortunately, I don’t have the time to offer to stitch one this time, but I know it will work out. Sorry to hear it’s happened, but it seems to be something that occurs with exchanges. 🙁

    Fingers and toes crossed for a speedy and safe delivery this month. 😉

  8. Melanie, I know you’re unhappy about the exchange – since I’m the person who’s been let down by the other stitcher, I’m not particularly chuffed about it either 😉 – but I certainly don’t blame you AT ALL! I’m sorry this had to happen on your exchange and I know if I was moderator I would be feeling just as bad as you do. Thanks for letting me know the updated situation and don’t worry about the replacement – it’ll all sort itself out eventually 🙂